If there’s one thing that pretty much everyone would say that they wish they had more of, it’s confidence. We’ve all seen someone walking down the street or arriving at a party who just seems to ooze confidence. It can often feel like something of an unattainable goal. That is often because we live in a society that bombards us with images of people that we could never possibly live up to. Celebrities who’ve been photoshopped into oblivion, and even your friends who have picked only the perfect photos of themselves to post to Instagram. It’s enough to make anyone feel inadequate. However, that’s not the way things have to be. If you want to start feeling more confident then the power to do that is in your hands. With that in mind, here are some ways to get your confidence back!
Mix up your style
One of the absolute best ways to give yourself a boost of confidence right away is to make yourself feel more visible. A lot of the time many of us settle into something of a routine with the clothes we wear to the point where we start to fade into the background. A lot of the time this is actually intentional and because we don’t want to be seen. But embracing your love of fashion can help you stand out and feel great doing it. From streetwear to bohemian chic to runway styles, there’s no real limit to the different styles that you can try. Why not experiment? Be daring. Try things that you might otherwise avoid.
Get to know your body
Issues with body image can be some of the most common reasons why a lot of people end up unable to feel confident in themselves is that they have something of a warped idea of their own body. We spend our lives being shown images of people who look better than we ever could and we start to think of our bodies as always being inadequate. By getting to know your body through things like taking selfies and looking at yourself naked in the mirror, you can come to terms with it both in the good and in the bad. Rather than thinking of it as something you need to hide, it can be something you celebrate, even if you just celebrate it on your own in your own personal way.
Fake it ’til you make it
There’s a good chance that when you see someone who is clearly very confident, the first question that comes to mind is, ‘how?’ How are they able to have such confidence? Well, the truth is that they might not be quite as confident as they seem. One of the best pieces of advice for anyone wanting more confidence is to fake it ’til you make it. Being able to act confident is a great way to get yourself used to doing the kinds of things that you might previously not have been willing to. And the great thing is that the longer you spend acting confident, the more it will become second nature and when that happens you’ll find that you’ve actually come confident for real.
Cut toxic people out of your life
For some people, it becomes pretty easy to give themselves a hard time and feel bad about themselves when they lack confidence, and that’s pretty understandable. However, there are some people who decide that the best way to make themselves feel better is to try and bring other people down. It’s surprisingly common to have these kinds of friends and it can really damage your self-esteem. It’s important to remember that you have value and you don’t deserve to be treated that way by anyone. If you know a toxic person like that, often the best thing to do is just to cut them out of your life entirely.
Doing these things might seem incredibly simple but the truth is that it can often be pretty difficult to do these kinds of things. That’s because we live in a world that is pretty much entirely designed to profit from you feeling bad about yourself. The truth is that being able to love yourself and feel confident in who you are within a world that wants to tell you that you need to buy things in order to be beautiful is kind of a radical and powerful thing. Just remember that it’s a process and just because you’ve had a day or two where you no longer feel confident, that doesn’t undo all of the great work that you’ve done.
Nb. Collaborative post.